Reflection #15

What is the cause of homosexuality? I would not say I knew exactly the cause of homosexuality, but I believe it is that people are born that way. A lot of the time majority of the world look down on gays and really hate the concept of being homosexual. Why is it every time we come across something different from us or out of the “norm” we are reluctant to accept it? What is so horrible about a person not liking the same things we like or the same sex (male or female) we like? I just believe people are just so afraid of difference. But why? When you are born into a certain culture there are things that are hard to accept because we are taught not to accept same sex relationships (well in some culture). I used to be someone who had a hard time dealing with the fact that some of my friends were gay or people around me like the same sex. I’m raise in a culture where if you are a homosexual you are renounced by your parents and community. So when you are young you accept things as basically being “law” or the “rule”. Even people around you have that same mentality so you believe it as the truth. They even say things like “you are a girl act like one” girls are suppose to like boys and boys are suppose to like girls. When you get to a certain age and they see you a little close to the same sex they do not want you to be that close because you can turn gay. Another thing with the gender role, is that boys are to act “manly” like ballet would not be consider manly but girly so therefore by a guy being in ballet you would be look at as being homosexual; a lot of people do not see it as oh he just likes ballet but there is something odd about that boys do not go into that unless they are gay. The reality of the matter is most people think like that and even the ones that say they do not do. They catch their self guessing “he likes to cook he might be gay” because cooking is looked as a girly thing to do. In the society there are in fact gender roles whether we want it or not they are there they are put out by our families, friends, and the mass media. After my past experience with my homosexual friends I could care less if someone is gay because we are people no matter what my beliefs may be I know that they are just like you and me. Also in this class I learned things to show me that that it is our culture that a lot of times shape our way of thinking. If I were raised in a homosexual community and everyone around me were homosexual then I would see being gay as a normally thing for me. Then one day I met a heterosexual I would find that person to be weird out of the norm. So that is why people have a hard time accepting people that are gay because they are different from what they are used to.